MEET YOUR SEVEN INNER CRITICS…
All seven are loud, obnoxious, relentless, abrasive, arrogant, dominating bullies that seem hell bent on interfering with your thoughts, feelings and plans to just live life on your terms.
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There’s this OTHER FAMILY in my life, in everyone’s. You may recognise it in yours.
They are ageless, have no creed, colour, race or gender. They turn up in any variety of circumstances, uninvited and pessimistic. They can make your life miserable!
In fact, they’ve been around for so long it seems they have power, right of way, first preference. When any one of the seven get together, they call in extra support and create such a mess that there’s no escape from overwhelm, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness. The best you can do is numb out, the worst, create an addiction, or a habit of taking it out on someone else!
Do you know who I am talking about?
Yes YOUR INNER CRITIC…. the part that judges you, demeans you, tells you who you should be, what you should do, undermining your self-confidence, creating doubt and making you feel bad about yourself.
We all have a number of “critics” who function in different ways to motivate and control us. Strange as it may see, the Inner Critic is actually trying to help and protect us!
PATTY PERFECTIONIST… has high standards of behavior, for performance and production. When you don’t meet her standards, she attacks you by saying your work isn’t good enough. This makes it hard to finish projects and even to get started.
CONNIE CONTROLLER…tries to control your impulsive behaviors (e.g. overeating, getting enraged, and using drugs or other indulgent behavior). It’s usually a constant battle with that part of you. She shames you after you binge, use, or react with rage.
TESSIE TASKMASTER…wants you to be successful, so she tries to get you to work hard. She says you are lazy stupid or incompetent as a form of motivation. Another part of you will procrastinate in order to avoid her threat or rejection.
OLGA UNDERMINER...tries to undermine your self - confidence and self- esteem so you won’t take risks that might end in failure. She tells you that you are worthless, inadequate and will never amount to anything. She may try to prevent you from getting too big, or powerful and visible in order to avoid threat of attack or rejection.
DOT DESTROYER… can be a crushing force that wipes out your vitality, or be a pervasive negativity that stamps out any sign of creativity, spontaneity, or desire. She attacks your fundamental self -worth, is deeply shaming and tells you shouldn’t exist.
GERTIE GUILT TRIPPER… can attack you for violating a deeply held value. She might attack you for a specific action you took (or didn’t take) in the past that was harmful to someone you care about. She might also make you feel guilty for repeated behaviours that are considered unacceptable in an attempt to get you to stop. She constantly makes you feel bad and never forgives, and you can feel like you’ve been hit in the chest with a hammer.
MOLLY MOLDER…can be kind, caring and a bit aggressive as she tries to get you to fit into a family or societal standard. She attacks when you don’t fit in and praises you when you do, determining what you should do in any given moment.